Happy 2015!!!!

Ladies, we did it we survived another year of existence. How do you feel? I just know that this year is awaiting you with great expectation. I know some of you had some challenging days in 2014. I had my share of interesting chapters to add to my book of life. Some people had loss, promotions, confusion, sickness, relocations, depressions and some triumphs. Regardless of where you were, prays be to the Master of creation we survived  to add  to the pages of our life.

So what's the plan? Many people have a laundry list of New Years resolutions. New workout regimes, no more smoking, no more cursing, leaving negativity behind, starting a business, etc...
You know what I love about the turn of a new year? It is the unification of positivity in most people. Everyone wants and hopes to do something to better themselves. I love the concept that this positive vibration is happening. There is so much power in that. For as long as you have air in your lungs you are here with a purpose.

I challenge you for 2015 to tap into your purpose. How do I do that you ask? Well I am glad you ask!
Simply find a way to serve others or a cause and not let yourself be the focus. I truly believe when we find a space of selflessness our purpose is usually wrap in it. Purpose, what does that mean? Well here is the dictionary's noun and verb definition.

Purpose
Noun

1.The reason for which something exists or is done, made, used, etc.

2. An intended or desired result; end; aim; goal.

3. Determination; resoluteness.

4. The subject in hand; the point at issue.

5. Practical result, effect, or advantage:

    to act to good purpose.

Verb

6. To set as an aim, intention.  

   to intend; design.

7.To resolve (to do something):

 

As you see above purpose is about performing an act, its aiming and intentional. For this year pay attention to what you are able to do for someone else to cause a change or help in a positive way, without effort. Try to pay attention to what selfless act makes you feel full and fulfilled. For me it is helping people, speaking life into people, and most of all I love to sing and worship God. I fill so full when I can do those things. Something about being able to be used intentionally to make a person or situation better is an amazing feeling. I ask you to please try it and see if this can become a new normal for you.

 

Well ladies, I am happy to be here with you, we will have so many intimate talks this year. We will tackle some hard topics but real essential ones. We will have fun getting fit, healthy physically, emotionally, financially, and spiritually. Let's do it. Let's live on purpose with a purpose.

Love, Peace and Harmony your sister,

Dina

  

My turn to Vent Ladies....

Today the kids are gone for the weekend and I worked last night the grave yard shift. I came home this morning at about 7:30 am. I scanned the living room / dining room area and said to myself " I ain't touching a thing". I had purchased some breakfast from work  before coming home. I chit chatted with the Spanish chef about me being a vegetarian now and how I wanted my potatoes with veggies. So, I was looking forward to eating and going to sleep. I pushed everything off the couch onto the floor and took my shoes, bra, jewelry off and ate, drank my juice, turned the t.v. on and closed my eyes. Now, I open my eyes to find it is
 1: 37 pm.  I realized that I am still alone with no one to answer to. Hhhhmmm, I have nothing to do and no one to call. I take a moment to pray and read my devotionals. I then turned the t.v. to BET ( Black Entertainment Television).  It was a new movie showing with Omari Hardwick  as one of the main characters. I am a HUGE fan so I decided to watch it. Before I knew it I was watching  Saturday marathon of emotional stimulating movies that had me crying, laughing, reflecting and dreaming. WOW!! I am forty years old, and I am single(divorced), in school, single mother, working, and here I am on a Saturday alone spending it on the couch with BET.  Is there anything wrong with that picture?

I will say no. There is nothing wrong with that picture. Yes, I do wish I at times, I had maybe a significant other, to spend my quiet weekends with; when the kids are with their dad and his girlfriend. However, I am grateful for the break and that they are in GOOD hands. I just will not settle for anyone just to fill in a small void. I am single by choice.  I refuse to have a man in my life that I would not be proud for my son to model after.  Plus, my mantra is if he doesn't draw me towards God  then he is not for me. You know this time I am writing you ladies as my girls at a late night get together. I am doing a little venting. Considering this is what this blog is about. Its a place to be reminded you are not alone. I have to say being strong ALL the time is tiring. Sometimes I just need someone to say to me, "hey D, take a break I got this and you. Come here love let me give you a hug  and give you a massage," ! Yes, its my day to vent a little. It gets hard some days. I suppose the emotion makes me real and human. I stare at myself in the mirror and ask myself out loud, "Hey girl who are you? Truly.. Who do you believe that you are?". Hhhmmm, I look at my hair, my nose, I pick at my face, I look at my full lips, my body shape and I decided I am perfect in God's image. My heart is good, and consciences  is clear. I am not perfect but, with God's grace I am a working progress. Moving closer to my dreams and his purpose. Many don't know I sing. I take a moment to worship in song. I feel overwhelmed with gratitude and tears fall from my eyes. I am grateful for were I have come from and trust in were I am going.  Praise due to the most high God for dwelling in me and my space.  Then I sat back on the couch a little sad and yet grateful. Its one of those days I believe I had to deal with my quiet.

To often we get uncomfortable to hang out with ourselves. We have to be in the space loving ourselves enough to be fine with the quiet. If I am not okay with it how do I expect someone else to be? I have grown sooo much since my divorce. I am getting to know myself differently. Every layer means something. I enjoy my children (son 11yrs and daughter 8yrs) so much more now. I am very present now when I am with them. Before, there was soooo much chatter in my head when I was with them. Just all the busy things mom's have to do and think about. Now, when I am with them the chatter shuts up and EVERYONE takes a back seat. I love that about myself. I really do. I want my sisters out there to know it is a good thing to get to REALLY know yourselves. Every layer, every emotion. It is how we evolve and grow. Yes, I get lonely sometimes then I remember what I enjoy to do and I embrace them. I plan to get out more. I don't get out much but, that is because school takes up my time but, I will make time to go to the movies or to an event. I will make time for my friends.
Thanks for listening to me today. I needed you all to do a little unloading. Enjoy your week.
Your sister loves you.

YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!!

YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!!

Hello ladies it's been awhile. The constant moving and shaking of life just gets in the way of breathing at a normal pace at times. My thoughts today is about the value of women. As I observe day in and day out the movement and conversation of women. I can't help but to giggle. We are all so different and colorful in our looks,thoughts, our expressions, verbiage and opinion. Where does the image of ourselves come from? Some may say their mother. Others may say media or lack of certain components can shape us as women as well. The men we choose as mates can have a huge effect on how we view ourselves at time. The men in our lives that we declare our love for; how does he not value all of what you have to offer. The woman that sacrificed her body to extend the man's legacy. How does he value you when he dismisses your thoughts and opinions? To often we find ourselves in these relationships that we invest in only to wake up and not recognize ourselves anymore. How does that happen? How does the man WE CHOSE who have broken our heart;cause us from ever letting our hearts love again; when the very fiber of our makeup is encompassed around LOVE. We allow the brokenness to do so much damage. We own the pain to the point it cripples us in our finances, dreams, sexuality, self esteem, and worst our worth!! It is time to look mirror and have a heart to heart talk with the soul in you. You know the one closest to the Divine, God, Allah, Yahweh, Jehovah and Jesus. There is that voice in you that tries to remind you how great you were together before you were coerced into the lies about your power and your worth. Tell the voice how sorry you are and how much you miss her. Tell her that this was not the plan and it is NEVER NEVER NEVER to late to change the situation. You may be afraid to make a move but it is pushing through the fear that provides growth and success. Don't be enslaved in your mind. Lets go to mental and emotional battle to reclaim who we are. That means every time your mind says I can't do this or you are not good enough, or pretty enough, you can't lose the weight, your not intelligent enough, I want you to replace it with I am a child of God heir to his thrown through him I can accomplish anything. Say it over and over until you believe it. Make this your new truth from now on. You are enough and let me be the first to say with my heart I LOVE YOU and ALL that YOU STAND FOR!!!!! Know that I am an ADVOCATE FOR YOU MY SISTER!! WE are CITIZENS of the HUMAN RACE!!!! Remember you are contributors of mother earth..RECLAIM!!

Life's interruptions !!!! Just Re-position your self!!

 Hello ladies it has been a while and I know you all are wondering where have you been sister? Well ladies I apologies for my absence. Since this is a platform to let your hair down with your girlfriends here it goes. I have been working really hard worth two jobs, in school and managing motherhood of an 11 year old boy and 8 year old girl. I was having a tough time getting motivated to write. Yes, it is the truth. I was all out of steam. I also had to deal with lacking sleep. I must say as you mothers and especially single mothers out there know it is tough being the CEO of your house. I was once married with my ex-husband's support to split the responsibilities.

Unfortunately that is not the case today. However I press on and do the best that I can.  It is amazing how in many cases (not all of course) men get to live their lives with their new found freedom and we get the bulk of the work. Well I could let bitterness occupy in my mind rent free but, I don't think so. I have to be my best me for my children. I re-positioned my mental self and embraced my skill-set as a mother. I refused to fall apart. I remember watching Oprah's Master Class the other night and Robin Roberts was the star speaking. I was preoccupied but listening at the same time. I heard her say "Be the leading lady in your world". I looked up and she was showing her journey through breast cancer. I popped up and told myself you are capable and wonderfully made by the most high divine God.. Get up and live your purpose.

Ladies re-position yourselves, the space in your minds, in your heart, home, jobs, and some of  the old baggage (dead beat boyfriends). Whatever the change it is an opportunity to grow and learn. One thing we can be certain of is change. I like to call them life interruptions. They happen in all our lives at one time or another. It could be the bombshell of a husband cheating, a surprise sickness, a foreclosure on a home, a misbehaving child or a sudden death of a close friend. Whatever the interruption, we are forced to push through. We are challenged in character, in integrity, in love, and maturity. We are guaranteed change. How you choose to adjust to the change is the key. You take that pain and transform it with prayer, chanting, meditating. You have to allow yourself quiet space so you can hear your inner voice. The voice that you were created with. It is your alarm clock; your warning signal.. It is there you conquer your thought, dreams, and ideals of yourself.  We should never let anyone take us out of character so much that we lose the core goodness of ourselves. Its just an interruption. The greatest revenge is success. So when these interruptions come into play the best thing you could do is re-position yourself and press towards success. You are more than worth it. Ladies it is GREAT to be back... Stay tuned.

Forgiveness "The Mental Gymnastics!!"

Forgiveness "The Mental Gymnastics!!"

Okay, ladies let's talk... There is a healing that needs addressing more then ever. I believe it is an EPIDEMIC of sorts!!!! It is the "Mental Gymnastics we put ourselves through just so we can justify our unforgiving behavior. Okay, now wait before you say "What do you mean unforgiving behavior?"
Well, as a health and wellness coach and a professional stylist; I speak to women everyday and I hear their pain, anger, bitterness, fear, broken spirit, callousness and watch how emotionally paralyzed they are. I remember that place. I remember how it crippled me of knowing and being the best version of myself.

 I plea to you ladies to start the work of letting go..  It is liberating. FORGIVENESS!!!!  It is like a breath of fresh air after being trapped in smoke for hours. In the smoke you cannot see clearly. It represents the thickness of the pain.
FORGIVENESS is  LETTING GO THAT THE PAST CAN NEVER CHANGE...
There are some things that people do to you that cuts deep and you are justified in not speaking to them anymore. Most times you may feel justified in your anger. However, in hind site they have you just where they want you. They are taking your power away from you. Usually, as you entrap the space that could be occupied with your greatness with malice and anger in your heart ; the other person continues on with life as normal. You to them is an after thought. Where there is un-forgiveness, there is anger. Where there is anger there is fear. Where there is fear there is pain. Identify with the pain that you fear. Face it head on. Tell it " I have packed your bags and you are evicted!"  You cannot change the past. Holding on to that pain or anger will only prevent your blessing.. Let the Universe fight the battle for you. There is Karma. You've heard it. "What goes around, comes around." Forgiveness is for you in your heart. You don't have to tell the person that you forgive them or even speak to them. Howevr, you can release them from housing space inside you. Vacate the premises immediately..

Let your heart function the way it was made to function; with love.. When you do re-introduce yourself to your heart. Tell it you apologize for starving it of its birth-right. Tell your heart you will never let anyone come between the two of you again. Then finally look in the mirror and say " I love you enough to NEVER let anyone still our joy... Please be clear that this will not happen over night. It will require a lot of mental gymnastics. However, every time you think of the circumstance say this. "Thank you for the opportunity to grow from this lesson."  Repeat that over and over again until it is your truth. Acknowledge your pain and move on. Bitterness and anger never gets tired just like fire. As long as you feed it. It will grow. So please Forgive!!! LET GO THAT THE PAST CAN EVER CHANGE...
 Remember that I am hear as your sister to hold you accountable for your GREATNESS!! Mediocrity is not an option. You deserve to be the very best version of yourself.
I am your biggest fan... Email me and ask me how I did it for details on specific advice. Till then your sister loves you...

The Language of Love.... Do you know it ?????

Alright so today is Valentines Day.... This is a day where many will scramble to create a special symbolic experience to hold as a memory. Ladies watch for flowers, chocolate and an outing to  dinner. Men run around at the last minute to pick up some flowers or cringe at the thought of the high expensive day that depletes their finances.
However I ask you this; does this truly display love? Does the lack of demonstration mean that the significant other doesn't love you? Hhhmmm!!!

You know often times we have  what we believe is a clear picture on how to love someone.
We take pride in treating our loved ones the way we want to be treated. Is that the right way?
Well I have been the victim of loving someone the best way I believe,  I would want to be loved. I put my best efforts out for display only to find it was not enough. I have also had some one give me their very best only to feel unfulfilled and empty. What was the problem?

Well I have embarked upon a great discovery a few years ago. It is the book called "The Five Love Languages " by: Gary D. Chapman. He explains in his book that; instead of loving a person the way you want to be loved; study them and figure out what their love language is. This way you can efficiently love them in their language instead of yours. Below is his philosophy and I urge you to take a peak. It changed my way of loving and it has been successful in all of my relationships. Even with my son and daughter. So as you dwell on what love is going to do for you today. First find out what your love language is. Happy Love day.

Chapman's Five Emotional Love Languages:

• Words of Affirmation
  This is when you say how nice your spouse looks, or how great the dinner tasted. These words will also build your mate's self image and confidence.
• Quality Time
  Some spouses believe that being together, doing things together and focusing in on one another is the best way to show love. If this is your partner's love language, turn off the TV now and then and give one another some undivided attention.


• Gifts
  It is universal in human cultures to give gifts. They don't have to be expensive to send a powerful message of love. Spouses who forget a birthday or anniversary or who never give gifts to someone who truly enjoys gift giving will find themselves with a spouse who feels neglected and unloved.


• Acts of Service
  Discovering how you can best do something for your spouse will require time and creativity. These acts of service like vacuuming, hanging a bird feeder, planting a garden, etc., need to be done with joy in order to be perceived as a gift of love.


• Physical Touch
  Sometimes just stroking your spouse's back, holding hands, or a peck on the cheek will fulfill this need.

Determining Your Own Love Language

Since you may be speaking what you need, you can discover your own love language by asking yourself these questions:

• How do I express love to others?
• What do I complain about the most?
• What do I request most often?

Speaking in your spouse's love language probably won't be natural for you. Dr. Chapman says, "We're not talking comfort. We're talking love. Love is something we do for someone else. So often couples love one another but they aren't connecting. They are sincere, but sincerity isn't enough."

Emotional Experiences

The number one emotional experience reported by folks is feeling the presence of God in their lives. The emotional high of being in love (which generally lasts around 2 years) is the second highest emotional experience that people reportedly have.
That is why it can be so difficult to try and talk some sense into someone who is in the midst of falling in love. Chapman stated that obsessive love can render people mentally incompetent. "There's not much difference between being in love and being insane."

Fading Tingle and Empty Love Tanks

After the first or second year of marriage, when the initial "tingle" is starting to fade, many couples find that their "love tanks" are empty. They may have been expressing love for their spouse, but in reality they may have been speaking a different love language. The best way to fill your spouse's love tank is to express love in their love language. Each of us has a primary love language. Usually, couples don't have the same love language.

Tank Check

Dr. Chapman recommends that you have a "Tank Check" 3 nights a week for 3 weeks. Ask one another "How is your love tank tonight?" If, on a scale from zero to ten, it is less than 10, then ask "What can I do to help fill it?" Then do it to the best of your ability.

The Five Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman.

COLOR BLIND WOMEN GOING LIVE!!!!!!!!!!

The Reclaimed Promise Ceremony!!!!

 Announcement!!Announcement!! 

 Ladies I am pleased to announce that this blog is going live and interactive 
in 2014.. This is perfect because this is going to be a dig DEEP intervention for the new year as it approaches. Ladies here in Boston  it is time that we create the support system you need. This is going to be awesome! We will be covering some real deal topics about men, money, spirituality, motherhood, being single, and passing the baton. Most of all we will be discussing how to love ourselves and how to be sisters to one another. All that I say in my blog is coming to you live . We will also have male speakers to give us insight on relationships from a male perspective. Please understand that this is not going to stop. We will meet regularly.. Join me and many others!! Nice!!! Right??  Come and defy all the myths that stand in our way of becoming the BEST VERSION of ourselves!!! When unified women come together GREAT things manifest. Join me!! 

NEXT WEEKEND!!!!!

The date: January 18th, 2014

Time: 7pm-9pm

Location: Dorchester YMCA
776 Washington Street
Dorchester, Ma 02124

Contact: Dina Shackleton 
Email : colorblindwomen1@gmail.com

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!

Happy New Year!!!!!!!!!! What an amazing year we had. WOW!!! The most  high God is POWERFUL and his GRACE is such a gift!!! We had fun this year. Let’s recap!  We push ourselves past our potential. We learned to forgive. We reclaimed ourselves. We found the queen in us. We established that we are enough. We discovered that we want to live on purpose. We worked to get our finances in order. We have a following across the globe: Entry Pageviews Ukraine 164 United States 105 Israel 103 China 7  Lastly we strived for emotional health. I say that is accomplishing!! Feel free to visit the archives if you missed any. Nonetheless, people everywhere recognize that we have a common thread. We will continue to lace it around the globe. We are connecting women everywhere. Love, Peace and Harmony!! THIS year we get to meet…How awesome is that. This year we have sooo much in store for you so stay tune. This year is about the seeds harvesting. We will be interactively working together to be the BEST VERSION of OURSELVES.  However, for now I want to reintroduce colorblindwomen to you.  If you are new to it I want to welcome you to your circle of sisterhood and support. I love you and can’t wait to be there for you… Welcome Welcome to a blog that celebrates YOU the WOMEN of every walk of life. The Sisterhood of Color Blind Women. Definition: Sisterhood: 1. An organization of women with a common interest, as for social, charitable, business, or political purposes. 2. Congenial relationship or companionship among women; mutual female esteem, concern, support etc... 3. Usually, the sisterhood, the community or network of women who participates in or support feminism. As I look up the definition of sisterhood I am thinking to myself what will this gathering of women mean to one another. I am more than excited to congregate with all of you and see how different we are and what walk of life we have come from. I really know and understand the importance of support and friendship. There is something so powerful about women coming together assertively to uplift one another. Some of you are single, single with children, married, married with children and some are retired and have been there and done it all. (We love you!!) Imagine all the advice and wisdom to pass along. Imagine all the recipes for food, sickness remedies, love, patience, and understanding that could be obtained .This is clearly not place to throw on airs and flex muscles but rather a place to let your hair down and be girls again in the dorm room after cramming for finals. I invite you today to invest in yourself by investing in one another. Let us do inventory of ourselves and examine what we need and want this blog to mean to us. I thought it would only make sense to have each woman write in the comment space their opinion and perception of women and lets begin the vent session. This way we can filter and re-establish what is our birth right: intuition, nurturing love, strength, confidence, nourishment of the soul and TRUST. Ladies we will have culture, pain, happiness and a plethora of very informative information. Shall we? Let's begin our journey in being Color Blind Women of the women race. Archives to search for and read of our recap..

AnnTaylor Announcement

Mandela Thank you for being obedient to your purpose!!!

The Reclaimed Promise Ceremony!!!!

Forgiveness "The Mental Gymnastics!!"

The Pain Will Pass.. Choose Yourself!!!!

HAPPY 2013 QUEENS!!!!!

What is Christmas to you????

YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!!

Let live on purpose!!!!

Time to get our money STRAIGHT!!!

What is Emotional Health????

AnnTaylor Announcement

Announcement!!!!
colorblindwomen. com has had such an amazing response that the Ann Taylor on Newbury St is suggesting we move the event to a larger location with better parking. Thank you to all participants for responding and rsvping for this event .
As a result of your following it has been brought to my attention that tomorrow's event is being postponed so a bigger venue can be the host. The marketing department has stated that AnnTaylor of the Natick mall may be the bigger and better location to host with parking. Stay tune for further details. Thank you team for all your support.
Can't wait to meet you all.

Ann Taylor hosting colorblindwomen for the holidays join us!!

It is with great pleasure to inform you that AnnTaylor of Newbury Street will be hosting a
 colorblindwomen's event; allowing the followers to come shop in a private setting while refreshments are being served all followers will get between 20-30% discount on there purchases. This will be a private affair Please join us and meet me Dina Shackleton CEO of colorblindwomen,com while enjoying your shopping for the new year. I look forward to meeting you all. See you there ;-)!!

Location: 800 Boylston St, Boston, MA 02199
Date: Sunday December 29,2013
Time: 3pm - 5pm

Mandela Thank you for being obedient to your purpose!!!

WOW!!!!!  What a remarkable man to have marveled this earth as a servant. This man did not let  3 decades of imprisonment prevent him from owning his voice and purpose. I am saddened that his candle has burned out. However, I understand and respect the unknown powers that attaches to what we call life. Understanding that you matter and that your voice has a massive amount of power and strength is a revelation that is imperative. It is an ABSOLUTE MUST TO UNDERSTAND THAT your thoughts, mind, voice and movement is IMPORTANT!!!!!
It is important to find your purpose. You see, without a purpose in life it's easy to get side tracked with your life's journey. Its easy to wonder and drift through life aimlessly accomplishing very little. You owe it to yourself to contribute patriotically to the human race. You are a citizen of the human race. You don't have to be president, doctor, lawyer or Gandhi but by displaying the very BEST version of yourself is honoring the life that the Divine has given you.
With purpose everything in life seems to fall into place. To live and be on purpose means you are doing what you love to do,doing what your good at and accomplishing what is important to you. Make note; when you truly are on purpose, the people, resources and opportunities you need naturally gravitate towards you. Trust me the world benefits too; because when you act in alignment with your true life purpose, all of your actions automatically serve others. I know this for fact. As I began this blog to simply heal myself and to genuinely reach out to other women and let them know how important it is to love one another. How important it is to work in unity, to give each other support. I had no clue that this would take a life of its own. The universe embraced my gift because we are in alignment together. I want this for you too.
I challenge you today to dare dig deep inside the core of your being and discover your purpose. When you do please let your sister (me) know all about it. Email me and let me showcase your journey....
Congrats in advance,,,,
Dina

The Reclaimed Promise Ceremony!!!!

 Announcement!!Announcement!! 

 Ladies I am pleased to announce that this blog is going live and interactive 
in 2014.. This is perfect because this is going to be a dig DEEP intervention for the new year as it approaches. Ladies here in Boston  it is time that we create the support system you need. This is going to be awesome! We will be covering some real deal topics about men, money, spirituality, motherhood, being single, and passing the baton. Most of all we will be discussing how to love ourselves and how to be sisters to one another. All that I say in my blog is coming to you live . We will also have male speakers to give us insight on relationships from a male perspective. Please understand that this is not going to stop. We will meet regularly.. Join me and many others!! Nice!!! Right??  Come and defy all the myths that stand in our way of becoming the BEST VERSION of ourselves!!! When unified women come together GREAT things manifest. Join me!! 

NEXT WEEKEND!!!!!

The date: January 18th, 2014

Time: 7pm-9pm

Location: Dorchester YMCA
776 Washington Street
Dorchester, Ma 02124

Contact: Dina Shackleton 
Email : colorblindwomen1@gmail.com
                  

Forgiveness "The Mental Gymnastics!!"

Okay, ladies let's talk... There is a healing that needs addressing more then ever. I believe it is an EPIDEMIC of sorts!!!! It is the "Mental Gymnastics we put ourselves through just so we can justify our unforgiving behavior. Okay, now wait before you say "What do you mean unforgiving behavior?"
Well, as a health and wellness coach and a professional stylist; I speak to women everyday and I hear their pain, anger, bitterness, fear, broken spirit, callousness and watch how emotionally paralyzed they are. I remember that place. I remember how it crippled me of knowing and being the best version of myself.

 I plea to you ladies to start the work of letting go..  It is liberating. FORGIVENESS!!!!  It is like a breath of fresh air after being trapped in smoke for hours. In the smoke you cannot see clearly. It represents the thickness of the pain.
FORGIVENESS is  LETTING GO THAT THE PAST CAN NEVER CHANGE...
There are some things that people do to you that cuts deep and you are justified in not speaking to them anymore. Most times you may feel justified in your anger. However, in hind site they have you just where they want you. They are taking your power away from you. Usually, as you entrap the space that could be occupied with your greatness with malice and anger in your heart ; the other person continues on with life as normal. You to them is an after thought. Where there is un-forgiveness, there is anger. Where there is anger there is fear. Where there is fear there is pain. Identify with the pain that you fear. Face it head on. Tell it " I have packed your bags and you are evicted!"  You cannot change the past. Holding on to that pain or anger will only prevent your blessing.. Let the Universe fight the battle for you. There is Karma. You've heard it. "What goes around, comes around." Forgiveness is for you in your heart. You don't have to tell the person that you forgive them or even speak to them. Howevr, you can release them from housing space inside you. Vacate the premises immediately..

Let your heart function the way it was made to function; with love.. When you do re-introduce yourself to your heart. Tell it you apologize for starving it of its birth-right. Tell your heart you will never let anyone come between the two of you again. Then finally look in the mirror and say " I love you enough to NEVER let anyone still our joy... Please be clear that this will not happen over night. It will require a lot of mental gymnastics. However, every time you think of the circumstance say this. "Thank you for the opportunity to grow from this lesson."  Repeat that over and over again until it is your truth. Acknowledge your pain and move on. Bitterness and anger never gets tired just like fire. As long as you feed it. It will grow. So please Forgive!!! LET GO THAT THE PAST CAN EVER CHANGE...
 Remember that I am hear as your sister to hold you accountable for your GREATNESS!! Mediocrity is not an option. You deserve to be the very best version of yourself.
I am your biggest fan... Email me and ask me how I did it for details on specific advice. Till then your sister loves you...

The Pain Will Pass.. Choose Yourself!!!!

You know it is my personal testimony that a women who honors herself and establishes who she is in the Divine God will be a confident force to be reckon with. I know 1st hand that in all situations INTEGRITY always win. Even when it doesn't seem as if it will. When I was married I remember feeling like I was not getting what I needed from my husband emotionally and spiritually. It was a very hard combination to live with. Here I am a women who claims to love herself and is constantly encouraging other women on loving themselves and not to make excuses as to why you are not living your very best you. What I felt for myself internally was not expressed in my life externally. I had a very difficult decision to make.I had done everything in my FIBER to make my marraige work but you cannot do it alone, it takes two people. I left my husband while we were raising two children. It was the most difficult thing I had ever done. I left with 27.00 dollars in my pocket and faith that the most high GOD was going to lead my footsteps. I can't explain how I knew, I just did. It was strong in my spirit that I was going to be okay. In a matter of 6 months while going through a very ugly divorce, and a bad economy I landed two great jobs plus I continued to write my blog. I was able to place my children in one of the best school systems in the United States and God has blessed me in ways that my  mind could not  conceive. Ladies I am here to tell you that if you are in a situation that causes you to lose the essence of who you are, what you stand for, and it causes you to compromise your integrity; try to find your voice in the midst of the darkness where the Divine God dwells. He is waiting for you and he just needs you to dig deep and find the strength to extend your hand our towards the light. He will yank you right out. Trust and believe me there is so much in store for you if you are willing to push through the stormy pain. It will not last always .. You are building emotional and spiritual muscle. Do not settle for less. You are heir to the throne of royalty... NO ONE SHOULD LOVE YOU MORE THAN YOU and GOD... NO ONE... So the love we search for to find affirmation and a sense of validation is in you for you. Love yourself past your pain. What is made for harm can be transformed into God's great plan for your life. Be willing to trust the voice inside of you..I am here as your sister to help encourage  you.. Have a awesome day and email me if  you need any words of affirmation. I am here for you.. I am here as your sister to love you past your pain and to hold you accountable for your greatness..

Truly yours,
Dina
dinamckinley@gmail.com

Hello ladies,
Here we are on the third month of the year.. Can you believe it. Okay so many of you have made resolutions.. How are you all doing with them so far? Well, I hope your choices are decisive. Reason being is everything that we experience today is the result of choices we made in the past.
We have control over three things in life - the thoughts you think, the images you visualize, and the action you take (your behavior). How you use those three things determined everything you experience. If you don't like what you are experiencing, you have to change your responses. Change your negative thoughts to positive ones. Change what you say to your truth. Change friends or whatever needed to get the change you need. See you may not be able to change the actual circumstance but you can change yourself and take 100% responsibility for what you do,say and respond to...

HAPPY 2013 QUEENS!!!!!

Happy New Year my Queens!!!!! Can you believe it? The year is 2013 and I am extremely excited about life and the living life on purpose with a purpose. Today, I want to kick start color blind women's OFFICIAL RELAUNCH!!! This year the conversation is going to be very interactive... We will actually meet one another and have round table conversation with men, children ,health educators and more. I cannot wait!! I invite you to this sister circle to uplift you and be the girlfriend that reminds you how awesome you are when you can't ; to hold you accountable to your dreams when you feel discouraged, to love you past your pain when you don't recognize yourself in the mirror; and of course to celebrate all your milestones and accomplishments. This is your platform to be informed and to be embraced by positive energy..I am Dina McKinley and I am THIS year I am a single mother of two;a gem of a boy 10 and a gem of a girl 7yrs old. I am a sister,friend, counselor,advocate, and a force to be reckoned with when it comes to uplifting sisters to be the BEST VERSION of THEMSELVES...

I challenge you this year to evaluate what does your best you look like and what do you think is preventing it? What is the cause of any short coming you possess and how can we get you out of that space. This year no more excuses. They are chants of nothingness... This year is about putting things into action.. Lets go ladies, we will be learning about love, motherhood, health, money and much much more... Be a DOER and not a TALKER.. OWN YOUR HAPPINESS in a whole space.. Learn to communicate and stop settling. BE what you expect... This way you can draw the right energy around you... Learn your love language, and your mates so you can communicate properly to one another. Let's learn how to celebrate our good men and our boys so they can grow being good men who knows how great support looks like. We are not sisters who exclude our men we welcome their input and point of view..  So let the RELAUNCH BEGIN!!!! I will be talking to you soon. Remember live life on purpose with a purpose.... I love you all can't wait to hear from you.

Email me at dinamckinley@ gmail.com..
When you email me your goals and dreams I will email you back to point you in the right direction and connections. I will be checking in regularly to  hold you accountable to your dreams... So reach out and be in-touch. LOVE PEACE and HARMONY!!

Dee ;--)

What is Christmas to you????

Its amazing how fast time flies by when we continue to be busy people. I tend to feel like every year Christmas comes and I am NEVER prepared.. I watch as families gather together to do their family traditions like, shopping, skiing, ice skating, plays and church events...

I have not been able to truly declare what this holiday means to me. I mean my last true memory of Christmas as a child was when I was twelve years old and it all encompassed around my church and school. I think that was the last time I was excited about it and I mean truly excited. My love that was tied to it was the singing in the choir at church. Understanding that this holiday for me was about the birth of Jesus Christ. Understanding the significance of the birth being in a manger and not in a castle. The three wise men and their role. Needless to say it was all about my spirituality.

Well quite obvious I am no longer twelve years old. I now have a family of my own. I am now a single mother who has to create the Christmas meaning for my two children. What is that meaning?
Well I teach my children the teachings of my beliefs and I explain to them that its the giving that really counts. We usually do some volunteering in order to give them a real perspective on being blessed and having gratitude for what they have.  Christmas in my family is about being the person with the pitcher pouring into others cup. Rather than having your hands open to receive. I now challenge you to contemplate what does Christmas mean to you?

YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!!

Hello ladies it's been awhile. The constant moving and shaking of life just gets in the way of breathing at a normal pace at times. My thoughts today is about the value of women. As I observe day in and day out the movement and conversation of women. I can't help but to giggle. We are all so different and colorful in our looks,thoughts, our expressions, verbiage and opinion. Where does the image of ourselves come from? Some may say their mother. Others may say media or lack of certain components can shape us as women as well. The men we choose as mates can have a huge effect on how we view ourselves at time. The men in our lives that we declare our love for; how does he not value all of what you have to offer. The woman that sacrificed her body to extend the man's legacy. How does he value you when he dismisses your thoughts and opinions? To often we find ourselves in these relationships that we invest in only to wake up and not recognize ourselves anymore. How does that happen? How does the man WE CHOSE who have broken our heart;cause us from ever letting our hearts love again; when the very fiber of our makeup is encompassed around LOVE. We allow the brokenness to do so much damage. We own the pain to the point it cripples us in our finances, dreams, sexuality, self esteem, and worst our worth!! It is time to look mirror and have a heart to heart talk with the soul in you. You know the one closest to the Divine, God, Allah, Yahweh, Jehovah and Jesus. There is that voice in you that tries to remind you how great you were together before you were coerced into the lies about your power and your worth. Tell the voice how sorry you are and how much you miss her. Tell her that this was not the plan and it is NEVER NEVER NEVER to late to change the situation. You may be afraid to make a move but it is pushing through the fear that provides growth and success. Don't be enslaved in your mind. Lets go to mental and emotional battle to reclaim who we are. That means every time your mind says I can't do this or you are not good enough, or pretty enough, you can't lose the weight, your not intelligent enough, I want you to replace it with I am a child of God heir to his thrown through him I can accomplish anything. Say it over and over until you believe it. Make this your new truth from now on. You are enough and let me be the first to say with my heart I LOVE YOU and ALL that YOU STAND FOR!!!!! Know that I am an ADVOCATE FOR YOU MY SISTER!! WE are CITIZENS of the HUMAN RACE!!!! Remember you are contributors of mother earth..RECLAIM!!

Let live on purpose!!!!

Hello my beautiful sisters!! I truly hope you have had an awesome week. Ladies it is time to start living the life you've imagine. What is holding you back? We have the right to have the vision and set forth a constructive plan to achieve it. One of the greatest myths today is that we are entitled to a great life-that some how, somewhere, someone(certainly not us) is responsible for filling our lives with continual happiness,exciting career options, nurturing family time,and blissful personal relationships simply because we exist.
But the real truth is that there is only one person responsible for the quality of life you live. That person is you!!!
If you want to be successful you have to take 100% responsibility for everything that you experience in your life. That includes the level of your achievements, the results you produce, your income, your debts, your feelings-everything!
This is not easy. In fact most or us have been conditioned to blame something or someone outside of ourselves for the parts of our life we don't like. Own the YOU in YOU!!! Be your biggest cheerleader. Also be prepared to face the TRUTH about your circumstances. We must take personal responsibility.You cannot change the circumstances,seasons,or the wind,but you can change yourself!! Never let people talk you out of your treasures. You were born with the tools; its about maneuvering it. If you have positive people around, lean on them to help and hold you accountable to your dreams. If not that ok too. You can push yourself through the hard work. Max Lucado said" You were deliberately planned,specifically gifted, and lovingly position on earth by the Master Craftsman"!! Believe it.. Let's do it. Let's live on purpose. I BELIEVE IN YOU!!!!

Time to get our money STRAIGHT!!!

More than ever we are in a society that is feeding us the constant news of recession. During this hard and maybe even impossible time we need to prepare our mind for financial success. This is the time to step out on faith and trust your instincts. What are your gifts? Not what others have as gifts but, yours exclusively. It may be something you take for granted like organizing, cooking, losing weight (exercising), talking or reading. What ever your hobby is that you love to do. That you would do  for free. It is time to tap into it. I love to write and talk to people about empowering themselves. So I wrote a blog to empower women. You never know where your fortune lies. Get online do your research; ask question and most importantly don't look for affirmation. YOU ARE ALL THE AFFIRMATION YOU NEED!!!! TRUST IN the GIFT in YOU!!! TRUST YOU!!!!!!!!!! I cannot tell you how many times we let other people's opinions talk us out of our future destined for us. It is sad! You should be your biggest cheerleader. If you have other to cheer for you than great. If not that is ok. What belongs to you cannot be duplicated. It is your gift especially assigned to you. Don't waste it. It is never too late. Just think outside the box. Once you do that it is time to think of how it can make a profit for you. On your mark, get set now GO!! I cannot wait to receive the comments on what you discovered. Good luck and have a fun time rediscovering your heart's joy!!