The Reclaimed Promise Ceremony!!!!

 Announcement!!Announcement!! 

 Ladies I am pleased to announce that this blog is going live and interactive 
in 2014.. This is perfect because this is going to be a dig DEEP intervention for the new year as it approaches. Ladies here in Boston  it is time that we create the support system you need. This is going to be awesome! We will be covering some real deal topics about men, money, spirituality, motherhood, being single, and passing the baton. Most of all we will be discussing how to love ourselves and how to be sisters to one another. All that I say in my blog is coming to you live . We will also have male speakers to give us insight on relationships from a male perspective. Please understand that this is not going to stop. We will meet regularly.. Join me and many others!! Nice!!! Right??  Come and defy all the myths that stand in our way of becoming the BEST VERSION of ourselves!!! When unified women come together GREAT things manifest. Join me!! 

NEXT WEEKEND!!!!!

The date: January 18th, 2014

Time: 7pm-9pm

Location: Dorchester YMCA
776 Washington Street
Dorchester, Ma 02124

Contact: Dina Shackleton 
Email : colorblindwomen1@gmail.com
                  

Forgiveness "The Mental Gymnastics!!"

Okay, ladies let's talk... There is a healing that needs addressing more then ever. I believe it is an EPIDEMIC of sorts!!!! It is the "Mental Gymnastics we put ourselves through just so we can justify our unforgiving behavior. Okay, now wait before you say "What do you mean unforgiving behavior?"
Well, as a health and wellness coach and a professional stylist; I speak to women everyday and I hear their pain, anger, bitterness, fear, broken spirit, callousness and watch how emotionally paralyzed they are. I remember that place. I remember how it crippled me of knowing and being the best version of myself.

 I plea to you ladies to start the work of letting go..  It is liberating. FORGIVENESS!!!!  It is like a breath of fresh air after being trapped in smoke for hours. In the smoke you cannot see clearly. It represents the thickness of the pain.
FORGIVENESS is  LETTING GO THAT THE PAST CAN NEVER CHANGE...
There are some things that people do to you that cuts deep and you are justified in not speaking to them anymore. Most times you may feel justified in your anger. However, in hind site they have you just where they want you. They are taking your power away from you. Usually, as you entrap the space that could be occupied with your greatness with malice and anger in your heart ; the other person continues on with life as normal. You to them is an after thought. Where there is un-forgiveness, there is anger. Where there is anger there is fear. Where there is fear there is pain. Identify with the pain that you fear. Face it head on. Tell it " I have packed your bags and you are evicted!"  You cannot change the past. Holding on to that pain or anger will only prevent your blessing.. Let the Universe fight the battle for you. There is Karma. You've heard it. "What goes around, comes around." Forgiveness is for you in your heart. You don't have to tell the person that you forgive them or even speak to them. Howevr, you can release them from housing space inside you. Vacate the premises immediately..

Let your heart function the way it was made to function; with love.. When you do re-introduce yourself to your heart. Tell it you apologize for starving it of its birth-right. Tell your heart you will never let anyone come between the two of you again. Then finally look in the mirror and say " I love you enough to NEVER let anyone still our joy... Please be clear that this will not happen over night. It will require a lot of mental gymnastics. However, every time you think of the circumstance say this. "Thank you for the opportunity to grow from this lesson."  Repeat that over and over again until it is your truth. Acknowledge your pain and move on. Bitterness and anger never gets tired just like fire. As long as you feed it. It will grow. So please Forgive!!! LET GO THAT THE PAST CAN EVER CHANGE...
 Remember that I am hear as your sister to hold you accountable for your GREATNESS!! Mediocrity is not an option. You deserve to be the very best version of yourself.
I am your biggest fan... Email me and ask me how I did it for details on specific advice. Till then your sister loves you...

The Pain Will Pass.. Choose Yourself!!!!

You know it is my personal testimony that a women who honors herself and establishes who she is in the Divine God will be a confident force to be reckon with. I know 1st hand that in all situations INTEGRITY always win. Even when it doesn't seem as if it will. When I was married I remember feeling like I was not getting what I needed from my husband emotionally and spiritually. It was a very hard combination to live with. Here I am a women who claims to love herself and is constantly encouraging other women on loving themselves and not to make excuses as to why you are not living your very best you. What I felt for myself internally was not expressed in my life externally. I had a very difficult decision to make.I had done everything in my FIBER to make my marraige work but you cannot do it alone, it takes two people. I left my husband while we were raising two children. It was the most difficult thing I had ever done. I left with 27.00 dollars in my pocket and faith that the most high GOD was going to lead my footsteps. I can't explain how I knew, I just did. It was strong in my spirit that I was going to be okay. In a matter of 6 months while going through a very ugly divorce, and a bad economy I landed two great jobs plus I continued to write my blog. I was able to place my children in one of the best school systems in the United States and God has blessed me in ways that my  mind could not  conceive. Ladies I am here to tell you that if you are in a situation that causes you to lose the essence of who you are, what you stand for, and it causes you to compromise your integrity; try to find your voice in the midst of the darkness where the Divine God dwells. He is waiting for you and he just needs you to dig deep and find the strength to extend your hand our towards the light. He will yank you right out. Trust and believe me there is so much in store for you if you are willing to push through the stormy pain. It will not last always .. You are building emotional and spiritual muscle. Do not settle for less. You are heir to the throne of royalty... NO ONE SHOULD LOVE YOU MORE THAN YOU and GOD... NO ONE... So the love we search for to find affirmation and a sense of validation is in you for you. Love yourself past your pain. What is made for harm can be transformed into God's great plan for your life. Be willing to trust the voice inside of you..I am here as your sister to help encourage  you.. Have a awesome day and email me if  you need any words of affirmation. I am here for you.. I am here as your sister to love you past your pain and to hold you accountable for your greatness..

Truly yours,
Dina
dinamckinley@gmail.com

Hello ladies,
Here we are on the third month of the year.. Can you believe it. Okay so many of you have made resolutions.. How are you all doing with them so far? Well, I hope your choices are decisive. Reason being is everything that we experience today is the result of choices we made in the past.
We have control over three things in life - the thoughts you think, the images you visualize, and the action you take (your behavior). How you use those three things determined everything you experience. If you don't like what you are experiencing, you have to change your responses. Change your negative thoughts to positive ones. Change what you say to your truth. Change friends or whatever needed to get the change you need. See you may not be able to change the actual circumstance but you can change yourself and take 100% responsibility for what you do,say and respond to...

HAPPY 2013 QUEENS!!!!!

Happy New Year my Queens!!!!! Can you believe it? The year is 2013 and I am extremely excited about life and the living life on purpose with a purpose. Today, I want to kick start color blind women's OFFICIAL RELAUNCH!!! This year the conversation is going to be very interactive... We will actually meet one another and have round table conversation with men, children ,health educators and more. I cannot wait!! I invite you to this sister circle to uplift you and be the girlfriend that reminds you how awesome you are when you can't ; to hold you accountable to your dreams when you feel discouraged, to love you past your pain when you don't recognize yourself in the mirror; and of course to celebrate all your milestones and accomplishments. This is your platform to be informed and to be embraced by positive energy..I am Dina McKinley and I am THIS year I am a single mother of two;a gem of a boy 10 and a gem of a girl 7yrs old. I am a sister,friend, counselor,advocate, and a force to be reckoned with when it comes to uplifting sisters to be the BEST VERSION of THEMSELVES...

I challenge you this year to evaluate what does your best you look like and what do you think is preventing it? What is the cause of any short coming you possess and how can we get you out of that space. This year no more excuses. They are chants of nothingness... This year is about putting things into action.. Lets go ladies, we will be learning about love, motherhood, health, money and much much more... Be a DOER and not a TALKER.. OWN YOUR HAPPINESS in a whole space.. Learn to communicate and stop settling. BE what you expect... This way you can draw the right energy around you... Learn your love language, and your mates so you can communicate properly to one another. Let's learn how to celebrate our good men and our boys so they can grow being good men who knows how great support looks like. We are not sisters who exclude our men we welcome their input and point of view..  So let the RELAUNCH BEGIN!!!! I will be talking to you soon. Remember live life on purpose with a purpose.... I love you all can't wait to hear from you.

Email me at dinamckinley@ gmail.com..
When you email me your goals and dreams I will email you back to point you in the right direction and connections. I will be checking in regularly to  hold you accountable to your dreams... So reach out and be in-touch. LOVE PEACE and HARMONY!!

Dee ;--)

What is Christmas to you????

Its amazing how fast time flies by when we continue to be busy people. I tend to feel like every year Christmas comes and I am NEVER prepared.. I watch as families gather together to do their family traditions like, shopping, skiing, ice skating, plays and church events...

I have not been able to truly declare what this holiday means to me. I mean my last true memory of Christmas as a child was when I was twelve years old and it all encompassed around my church and school. I think that was the last time I was excited about it and I mean truly excited. My love that was tied to it was the singing in the choir at church. Understanding that this holiday for me was about the birth of Jesus Christ. Understanding the significance of the birth being in a manger and not in a castle. The three wise men and their role. Needless to say it was all about my spirituality.

Well quite obvious I am no longer twelve years old. I now have a family of my own. I am now a single mother who has to create the Christmas meaning for my two children. What is that meaning?
Well I teach my children the teachings of my beliefs and I explain to them that its the giving that really counts. We usually do some volunteering in order to give them a real perspective on being blessed and having gratitude for what they have.  Christmas in my family is about being the person with the pitcher pouring into others cup. Rather than having your hands open to receive. I now challenge you to contemplate what does Christmas mean to you?

YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!!

Hello ladies it's been awhile. The constant moving and shaking of life just gets in the way of breathing at a normal pace at times. My thoughts today is about the value of women. As I observe day in and day out the movement and conversation of women. I can't help but to giggle. We are all so different and colorful in our looks,thoughts, our expressions, verbiage and opinion. Where does the image of ourselves come from? Some may say their mother. Others may say media or lack of certain components can shape us as women as well. The men we choose as mates can have a huge effect on how we view ourselves at time. The men in our lives that we declare our love for; how does he not value all of what you have to offer. The woman that sacrificed her body to extend the man's legacy. How does he value you when he dismisses your thoughts and opinions? To often we find ourselves in these relationships that we invest in only to wake up and not recognize ourselves anymore. How does that happen? How does the man WE CHOSE who have broken our heart;cause us from ever letting our hearts love again; when the very fiber of our makeup is encompassed around LOVE. We allow the brokenness to do so much damage. We own the pain to the point it cripples us in our finances, dreams, sexuality, self esteem, and worst our worth!! It is time to look mirror and have a heart to heart talk with the soul in you. You know the one closest to the Divine, God, Allah, Yahweh, Jehovah and Jesus. There is that voice in you that tries to remind you how great you were together before you were coerced into the lies about your power and your worth. Tell the voice how sorry you are and how much you miss her. Tell her that this was not the plan and it is NEVER NEVER NEVER to late to change the situation. You may be afraid to make a move but it is pushing through the fear that provides growth and success. Don't be enslaved in your mind. Lets go to mental and emotional battle to reclaim who we are. That means every time your mind says I can't do this or you are not good enough, or pretty enough, you can't lose the weight, your not intelligent enough, I want you to replace it with I am a child of God heir to his thrown through him I can accomplish anything. Say it over and over until you believe it. Make this your new truth from now on. You are enough and let me be the first to say with my heart I LOVE YOU and ALL that YOU STAND FOR!!!!! Know that I am an ADVOCATE FOR YOU MY SISTER!! WE are CITIZENS of the HUMAN RACE!!!! Remember you are contributors of mother earth..RECLAIM!!